Dr. Rami Nijjar Join the Waitlist
Dr. Rami Nijjar · Registered Psychologist
12-Week Online Course · Launching Mid-2026

Earned Secure Attachment

Self-Compassion for Deepening Connection and Intimacy
Trauma-InformedSelf-Paced + Live Q&AIFS-BasedClinically Proven

An evidence-based course for adults who are tired of understanding themselves intellectually and are ready to feel different in their nervous system, their relationships, and their intimate connections.

Join the Founding Waitlist
What this course delivers
20+
Years of clinical expertiseDistilled into a structured, accessible format
3
Core modulesWorking on yourself, your relationships, and intimate co-regulation
12
Weeks of structured practiceDaily guided practices building lasting capacity for change
Launching mid-2026 · Enrollment limited for first cohort
Who built this course

20+ years of clinical research
brought into one place.

This course was not created from theory alone. It was built from over two decades of direct clinical work with some of the most complex and underserved populations in mental health, and from research findings that have been presented on the international stage alongside established leaders in the field.

Dr. Nijjar is a Registered Psychologist with a PhD from Concordia University. She has designed and run clinical groups for six distinct populations, conducted original research on the effectiveness of this work, and presented her findings at international conference, sitting on a panel with some of the most respected names in attachment, sexuality, and self-compassion research.

🎓
PhD — Concordia University, MontrealDoctoral research on the intergenerational transmission of risk in families living with bipolar disorder
🔬
Research — Dr. Lori Brotto's Lab, UBCLed clinical groups for women with low desire, vulvodynia, and couples post-prostate cancer treatment
🤍
Trained by Germer & NeffCo-creators of the evidence-based Mindful Self-Compassion program
👥
Clinical groups across 6 populationsWomen with low desire · Vulvodynia · Couples post-prostate cancer · Neurodivergent adults · Couples with attachment trauma · Parents with bipolar disorder and their children
Internationally Presented Research Findings
Among the things participants reported getting out of this course:
Improvements in sexual satisfaction and intimate connection
Reduced relational conflict and improved communication
Less shame and greater assertiveness in relationships
Increased authenticity and self-trust
A felt sense of being different, not just more informed
Many participants reported that these changes were still present months and years after completing the course. These qualitative findings were presented at international conference on a panel alongside established leaders in sexuality and mindfulness research.
Who this is for

Built for people who are done coping and ready for integration

Most people who find this course have already done the work. They've been in therapy, read the books, developed real self-awareness. They can name their patterns clearly.

What they're still waiting for is the felt sense of being different in their body, in their relationships, in the moments that used to feel impossible to navigate.

That gap between intellectual understanding and embodied change is what this course was specifically built to close.

Neurodivergent adultsFormally diagnosed or self-identified, including those whose attachment wounds are entangled with decades of masking and adaptation.
High-achieving individuals who feel privately exhaustedProfessional success has not translated into the connection, ease, or intimacy you actually want.
People with attachment traumaWho want a structured, trauma-informed path that goes beyond understanding into actual nervous system change.
Couples wanting to rebuild connection and intimacyWho are tired of working on problems and ready to build something genuinely new together.
Those who want structure, not vague inspirationDaily practices of 5 to 20 minutes, weekly teaching, and clinical-level depth delivered accessibly.
What makes this different

Not another mindfulness course.
A clinically proven framework for lasting change.

This course integrates five evidence-based approaches — because no single framework creates the depth of change this work requires.

🧠
Adult Attachment Research
Grounded in the science of how attachment patterns form, how they're maintained, and how they can be rewired across the lifespan through relational experience.
🤍
Trauma-Informed Self-Compassion
Built to develop self-compassion without triggering shame backdraft — the painful rebound that often accompanies conventional practice for trauma survivors.
⚡
Nervous System Regulation
Change that lasts happens in the body. Somatic practices and nervous system principles are woven throughout — not added on as an afterthought.
🌿
Parts-Based Understanding (IFS)
A compassionate map of your internal world — helping you understand the protective parts that resist change and the exiles that carry old pain.
🔄
Experiential Daily Practice
5–20 minutes daily. Not to check a box — but to gradually build the capacity that makes change possible. Practice, not performance.
👥
Live Q&A with Dr. Nijjar
Self-paced learning combined with regular live sessions where you bring your experience directly to a registered psychologist with 20+ years of clinical expertise.
The course structure

Three modules. One complete arc
from self to relationship to intimacy.

The course is designed to be taken as a whole, or you can choose a single module that meets your current needs.

01
Module One
Working on Yourself
From Self-Criticism to Secure Internal Attachment
Develop a sustainable mindfulness and self-compassion practice
Identify and work with resistance to self-compassion
Meet and understand different parts of yourself and their needs
Interrupt shame spirals and build internal safety
Practice self-compassion in a way your nervous system can actually tolerate
02
Module Two
Improving Your Relationships
From Performing to Authenticity
Identify your patterns — and those of significant others — in relationships
Experience the balance of giving and receiving on a nervous system level
Practice mindful communication and tolerate relational uncertainty
Build a foundation for genuine co-regulation and reciprocity
03
Module Three
Co-Regulation Through Intimacy
From Hypervigilance to Felt Safety
Develop co-regulation skills and nervous system synchronisation
Use consent as a tool for deeper understanding of your own needs
Use healthy conflict as a trust-building practice
Create a foundation for more pleasurable, connected intimacy
12
Weeks
5-20
Min daily practice
Live
Q&A with Dr. Nijjar
∞
Lifetime access
In their own words

What participants experienced.
In their own words.

These are the qualitative findings presented at international conference — the voices behind the research.

"All previous couples work was about problems that needed to be fixed. I expected this course was going to be more about that — but instead it was more about adding to what's good and learning skills in parallel with one another. We're in this really sweet spot now of renewed commitment and intimacy and trust."
Anonymous Participant
"When we added consent into Sensate Focus, it was like it switched a button in my mind. Having the tools to notice what is right for me and being able to say it was a huge difference maker — it gave me this aura of calm. I'm usually like an anxious cat."
Anonymous Participant
"Focusing on my own experience and noticing when my attention was being pulled away from myself was revolutionary. In our relationship, I am the caretaker. Doing this work is the opposite of how I think about touch and sensations normally."
Anonymous Participant
"The course surprised me — it ended up being less about sex itself and more about working on the baseline stuff, the stuff that's harder to address. It created a foundation for us to explore in a new way, without avoiding it because we are scared."
Anonymous Participant
"MSC makes bravery more possible — it prepares us to be brave. I'm still terrified but this is another tool that makes me feel more confident that I can trust myself and we can trust each other."
Anonymous Participant
"Learning how to be more compassionate to myself helps me be more compassionate to her. Sometimes if we are hard on ourselves we are also hard on our partner."
Anonymous Participant
"Breathing in for me and out for them gave me this epiphany about connecting to a permissive, generous way of being. Just like breathing, there can be a natural ease to being in relationship — to existing in reciprocity."
Anonymous Participant
"If you give yourself more — more breath, more self-compassion — then it helps the one you give your partner actually be a really good one."
Anonymous Participant
"Self-compassion is like butter — it goes good with everything."
Anonymous Participant
Your investment

Clinical-grade depth.
Accessible outside the therapy room.

This course represents 20+ years of clinical expertise, original research, and international conference findings distilled into a structured, accessible format, the same evidence-based framework Dr. Nijjar uses with clients in her private practice, delivered at a fraction of the cost of individual therapy.

For context, 12 weeks of individual therapy with a registered psychologist typically costs $3,000–$4,800 CAD. This course delivers clinical-level depth, structure, live access to Dr. Nijjar, and lifetime access to all materials — for a fraction of that investment.

Founding cohort members who join the waitlist before launch will receive priority access and founding cohort pricing when enrollment opens mid-2026.

12 weeks individual therapy (avg)$3,000–$4,800 CAD
This course — full investment$937 CAD
Founding cohort waitlist discountAvailable at launch
Full Course Investment
$937
CAD · All three modules
12 weeks of self-paced structured learning
All three modules, or choose one
Daily guided practices and downloadable worksheets
Live Q&A sessions with Dr. Nijjar
Lifetime access to all materials
Based on internationally presented research
✦ Founding cohort waitlist members receive priority access and a special founding price when enrollment opens mid-2026.
Join the Founding Waitlist
Why group learning works

Healing happens in relationship, not just in reflection

Group environments can feel daunting, especially for those who carry attachment wounds around belonging and being seen. That hesitation makes complete sense.

And yet, the group setting is precisely where some of the most powerful healing becomes possible. Being witnessed by others who share similar struggles, and experiencing their witness, is something no amount of solo practice can replicate.

Enrollment for the first cohort will be deliberately limited to maintain the safety and intimacy of the group container.

🤝
Common humanity is one of the core pillars of self-compassion. It becomes felt rather than just understood when others share your experience.
⚡
Co-regulation in real time. The nervous system learns safety through other nervous systems. That learning cannot happen in isolation.
🌱
You are not broken and you are not alone. The group format makes that truth felt, not just known.
🔒
Limited enrollment ensures the group remains a safe, intimate, and carefully held container for this depth of work.
Join the founding waitlist

Be the first to know
when enrollment opens

Founding waitlist members receive early access, founding cohort pricing, and bonus materials when the course launches mid-2026.

Early access before public launch
Founding cohort pricing
Bonus materials

Your information is private and will never be shared. You can unsubscribe at any time.

✦
You're on the list.
Thank you for joining the founding waitlist. You'll be the first to hear when enrollment opens for the mid-2026 cohort.
Frequently asked questions

Everything you need to know
before joining the waitlist.

Is this therapy?
No. This is a psychoeducational course and does not constitute psychotherapy or clinical treatment. If you are experiencing significant distress, please seek support from a qualified mental health professional. Many participants find the course a valuable complement to their existing therapeutic work.
Can I take this course if I am currently in therapy?
Absolutely, and many people find it deepens the work they are already doing. You may want to share the course content with your therapist so you can integrate the material together.
Is this suitable for individuals or couples?
Both. The course was designed with individuals in mind but has been taken by couples working through it together with meaningful results. Module 3 in particular addresses co-regulation and intimacy in ways that couples often find especially useful.
What if I have significant trauma in my history?
The course is trauma-informed and built to be paced gently. If you are currently in an acute phase of trauma processing, it is worth discussing with your therapist whether the timing is right for you.
What does self-paced mean exactly?
You move through the material at your own pace with lifetime access to all content. Live Q&A sessions with Dr. Nijjar are scheduled periodically and recordings are made available if you cannot attend live.
What if I do not identify with a specific attachment style?
That is completely normal. The course works with the underlying nervous system patterns rather than requiring you to fit a single label. You may find you recognise yourself across several presentations, which the course content fully accommodates.
When does enrollment open?
The course launches mid-2026. Founding waitlist members will be the first to know and will receive priority access and founding cohort pricing.
What is the refund policy?
Full refunds are available up to the commencement of the course. Once the course has commenced, refunds are not available. Please review the full refund policy at the link in the footer.
A final word

Secure attachment is not
a destination. It is a practice.

And you have already begun, simply by being curious enough to be here. This course is the next step for those ready to move from understanding to embodied, lasting change.

Join the Founding Waitlist
Dr. Rami Nijjar · Resilience Psychotherapy
Privacy Policy Terms of Use Refund Policy
Skip to Content
Dr. Rami Nijjar
Dr. Rami Nijjar
Home
About
Services
Attachment Quiz
The ESA Course
Blog
Contact
0
0
Work With Me
Dr. Rami Nijjar
Dr. Rami Nijjar
Home
About
Services
Attachment Quiz
The ESA Course
Blog
Contact
0
0
Work With Me
Home
About
Services
Attachment Quiz
The ESA Course
Blog
Contact
Work With Me

Dr. Rami Nijjar

Privacy Policy | Terms of Use | Refund Policy
© 2026 Dr. Rami Nijjar. All Rights Reserved.

Pages

Home



About


Services

Contact